Ask, and You Shall Receive

We all get stuck at times. These stuck moments (hours or days) are when you are upset or disappointed with something, and that nasty, loud HeadTrash™ tape seems like it will never stop. Where is that dang “off switch?” 

There are many ways to dump your HeadTrash™ and navigate yourself out of fear, worry, or anxiety and into productive action, peace of mind, and solution. One of the most effective ways to guide yourself is to look at what you are asking yourself. 

Some self-talk keeps you stuck in the disconnected side of your emotional brain where the problem or issue lives and thrives. In contrast, other self-talk helps you get into the connected side where solutions and your personal power live. 

Some of the questions you ask yourself keep you stuck in the problem, while when you ask quality questions, you can shift out of the disconnected, negative spinning side into the connected, productive side of your emotional brain.

Stuck Questions keep you in the mess and negativity of a situation. They sound like:

  • Why is this happening?
  • Will we ever recover from this? 
  • What went wrong?
  • Who did this? 

Shift Questions create forward productive momentum and empower ideas and solitons. 

They sound like: 

  • What is the first thing I can do to improve this situation? 
  • Who do I want to be right now? 
  • What do I need to learn to feel more comfortable? 
  • How can I help improve this situation?
  • What is the first step towards getting back on track?  

The Lesson: When you ask questions that serve what you want, you will be amazed at all you will receive.

Live All in, Renie

P.S. Ready to shift out of your disconnected side of your emotional brain? Learn how here.

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About Renie

Renie Cavallari, the CEO of Aspire, RCI Institute, and an organizational anthropologist, has been speaking worldwide to groups from 15 to 5000 for over 25 years. Her dynamic, storytelling approach skips the fluff, and Aspire’s 96% client retention demonstrates her impact. Her expertise is in transforming results through people. She goes way beyond inspiration as her humorous, engaging, and proven performance improvement strategies have been transforming teams for decades. Renie has worked with thousands of leaders, uses real data, real-world situations, and provides practical action-oriented applications to help leaders shine. Renie’s 6th book, HEADTRASH, the Leading Killer of Human Potential, is available on Amazon. For exclusive access to member-only resources, go to #DUMPHeadTrash

About Aspire

For over 25 years, Aspire,, is the execution and consulting arm of the RCI Institute, delivering customized training, leadership development services, and strategic cultural alignment to optimize individual and team performance. Known as a transformational-training company that delivers measurable performance improvement, Aspire develops people at all levels of an organization and has worked with thousands of companies worldwide. Aspire’s work is the incubator to the RCI Institute’s research, real-life practical applications, and modeling.

About RCI Institute

RCI,, is a real-life, practical applications research and learning lab focused on awakening human potential and igniting the human spirit to play all in. It creates research-based proprietary systems and tools around active thinking, People Technology™, and provides executive leadership coaching and certification that maximize leadership development potential.